This post contains links to various videos and sites that will assist you in considering the impact of trauma and relationships. Codependency is a relationship pattern that leads to turmoil and additional brokenness. It prevents true intimacy and blocks authentic relationships.
Tim Fletcher explains how codependency, and insecure attachment styles develop in childhood. The intent of this post is to provide links for you to consider in your healing journey.
Near the 20 min. mark in the video, Tim explains the insecure attachment styles. He explains that drugs and certain activities create a sense of belonging in people.
Attachment theory explains how we as adults interact with others in work, family, and other relationships. Part of healing from trauma is accepting the past, recognizing current areas needing healing, and seeking to develop secure attachments with others.
The Most Painful Type of Trauma
Video: How Betrayal Changes You
Betrayal is one of the most painful types of trauma. This happens when a trusted person or institution breaks the bonds of trust. Common examples of betrayal trauma are cheating within marriages/intimate relationships, sexual or emotional abuse by spiritual leaders. This abuse can also occur in the workplace or within friend groups. Betrayal is a deeply personal “hurt.” This trauma pulls a person in the traps of self-pity, resentment, and bitterness.
Betrayal trauma is particularly damaging because it involves a breach of trust. It leads a person to question themselves and the nature of other humans. The following guide explains the types and definitions of this category:
https://mindwellnyc.com/the-ultimate-guide-to-betrayal-trauma-recovery/
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Personal Insights
Your healing journey is unique to your personal history and circumstances. However, you don’t have to walk this journey alone. These videos and articles have helped me to process these difficult emotions and past events. Healing is a journey, one that calls us to see ourselves and the brokenness in our lives. Healing is a process that invites us to become whole and more like Christ in our daily lives.
Sample Prayer for Emotional Healing
Heavenly Father, Jesus my Savior, Holy Spirit my Comforter
I come before you today seeking your comfort and healing touch.
I am struggling with emotional pain and turmoil, and I need your strength to overcome these challenges.
Please, Lord, mend the broken pieces of my heart.
Guide me in letting go of the fear, anxiety, and resentment that have been weighing me down. Grant me the courage to face my past and forgive myself and others.
Fill me with your love and compassion, so that I may find peace and hope in the midst of my pain.
Guide me towards healthy coping mechanisms and help me to build resilience.
I believe in your power to heal, Lord.
I surrender my pain to you and trust that you will restore me to wholeness. Through your name and for your glory, I pray.
Amen.
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